Monday, 10 November 2008

Love is...(Part II)

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Love is hard work. Sometimes we make the assumption that because we love people, all that it takes to keep our relationships (I use this term loosely)will come to us naturally. That has not been my experience.It is against the nature of the natural man to put the needs of another person over yours.

Love is patient, love is kind, it does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud, it is not rude, it is not self seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no records of wrongs 1st Corinthians 13

Erm, although this bit of my Bible is highlighted, I know I've not really been living it out because I don't know about you but I find it hard especially the not easily angered part and not keeping a record of wrongs! I've come to realise that love is more than something I feel, it's something I do. Like they say, love is a verb!

Love may involve time in the gym staying in shape, it may mean forgiving someone who has hurt you deeply, it may mean learning how to cook a specific meal in a specific way (this applies to both boys and girls!!), it may mean patiently waiting while she decides whether gold or silver accessories are more appropriate. It may mean learning how to put the toilet seat down (or back up?). It may involve retraining your hands to squeeze the toothpaste from the end of the tube or realising that it doesn't really matter!

Love sometimes means letting go of my pride and admitting I don't have it all together and seeking counsel. Love involves commitment, digging my heels in and saying though there might be some better people out there, I believe you are the best for me. The grass may seem greener on the other side but it's because the people on the other side of the fence put in the work to sow, water, fertilise and weed the lawn and I'm willing to do what it takes to make this green as well. A beautiful garden does not happen by accident, it takes a lot of hard work, determination, consistency and maturity.

Especially maturity..when i was a child, i TALKED like a child, i THOUGHT like a child, i REASONED like a child. When I became a MAN (or WOMAN), I put my childish ways behind me (1st Corinthians 13:11 NIV. Love is hard work but God gives us the grace. The fruit of the Spirit is love (Galatians 5:22) and God will teach us what we need to do but more especially who we need to be.

This post just seems to be here, there and everywhere but I am trusting God for restoration in the area of relationships, whether between husband and wife, mother and daughter, fathers and son. Let there be love shared amongst us, it may be hard but there is no life without love!

Remain blessed. 2008 continues to remain our year of UNCOMMON TESTIMONIES.

12 comments:

30+ said...

I am first!!!

30+ said...

True words I like the part where you emphasised on "maturity". Some folks love like a child, i.e. selfish love, loving only when they recieve.

How you dey

talesandtallies said...

av always thot loving like a child meant loving in a carefree way... children love you without strings attached, not because they want something exact in return

Ultimately, we should aim to love like Christ did us... this is what makes all the difference

I claim my uncommon testimonies!

xoxo

Jaycee said...

Letting go of my pride...*sigh*

That one must be LOVE...

E no easy. But nothing is impossible. Thank you so much for this critical reminder...

disgodkidd said...

"I am trusting God for restoration in the area of relationships"...

Amen!

OluwaDee said...

Girl you have said it all.

Love is hard work.

Wonderful post.

~Mimi~ said...

:) what is life without Love? empty

(Love is in capital because I am refering to Him that is Love..i think it is impossible to love unless one knows Him)

Anonymous said...

hey you. how u dey. keep pressing on in faith, and walking in love-you can never go wrong!!

chichi. who couldnt be bothered about sigining in rite now!!lol

The Life of a Stranger called me said...

a good friend of mine just joined blogger, go show him some lu on:

http://emeka-whatisthislife.blogspot.com/

Remi, United Kingdom said...

True words.. Love is hard, but we thank God for his grace and his spirit of guidance.

I believe love is a learning process; it's hard to do and get to a place where we love just because we want to, and not because we expect something back in return.. but we got to keep trying and when we fail we get up,hopefully learn new lessons in love and get more refined to love ultimately like master Jesus.

Amen to your prayers..
and to your question.. I'm good. Been on the move a lot cus of work, but that's rectified, got handbag sized laptop... lol.. blogging must continue
Have a great weekend hon.
much luvxxx

Adejoh Momoh said...

Your article was insightful, raised questions that once in a while go through our minds... most times, I just give up on the love thing... knowing the bible has stringent conditionalities for it that I might not be able to keep up with. I guess my light at the end of the dark tunnel comes as I am continually assured God strenghtens me....

The Life of a Stranger called me said...

I read this when it came out, thought I left a comment, and now I see the later one I sent about friends blog..lol..

mehn Love is really hard work..